OMG someone was just telling me this
it is september 20th, the technical start of the autumn season. you sigh to yourself, letting the baseball cap in your hands fall to the ground. it’s no longer summer. your hat is off your head, and not worn backwards. it is no longer time to fucking party.
I would usually ignore questions like these but I feel like you really need to know that this is not okay to just ask someone out of the blue. It can be extremely insensitive. Asking someone to explain what “caused” them to be like this? You don’t know what they’ve been through. It could have been an extremely horrific event; it could have been a series of terrible events; it could have been seemingly nothing at all and It just crept up on them.
The point is that asking someone with depression to flesh out the cause is really insensitive and potentially harmful. I’m fine to just ignore this but someone else might not be, so please be careful. It’s intrusive and almost jeering.
Please don’t ask people to detail their mental illnesses to you if you’re not even brave enough or respectful enough to talk to them ‘face to face.’ And be sure that they are actually comfortable talking about it in the open like this before you expect them to answer this. Lastly, please don’t assume people have mental illnesses that they haven’t explicitly talked about or addressed publicly, even though they may allude to it. Some people might be struggling to even accept their illness and having people ‘notice’ it can be really scary.
Please just be mindful and courteous towards other people. Don’t ask them personal questions unless you know they’re fine with it. It’s just best not to ask. If you need advice it’s always better to get in touch with a professional because people who are still in the thick of depression may be struggling to even look after themselves, let alone someone else.
All the best ♡